Give up to be Happy.

We grew up hearing not to give up but life is not the same being an adult. Well , I've always wanted to grow up fast when I was a kid , what the hell I was thinking !! Life in England taught so many valuable lessons and meeting people from different walks of  life , life in Malaysia taught me how can I improve myself  in every aspects possibly , life in India...........you can just describe in one word - Incredible India! It's all about survival of the fittest and life in the USA taught me even more than all of the above said chapters.......... it's all about giving up.

Life is seen as paradise to many people who dream on living a life in America. It's just not a dream, it's beyond that. Life is not easy as what many people think. Many couples fail to make life after marriage not because they are in the US but it's because of  the life which demands a lot of  hard work and sacrifice. When people imagine earning in dollars is all about $$$$$ , the fact is every employee pays $$$$ taxes to the IRS.  You are responsible to keep your home clean , otherwise be ready to face charges by the Home Owner Association :)

Sometimes, giving up can make us happy in many ways. We can never be ALWAYS be right , so give up on trying to be right because being kind is nicer than being right :) Great relationships suffer due to trying to be right.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

Sometimes it's good to let go of control. First of all, there should not be control concepts in relationships , be it spouse , kids or co workers. I have seen wives/mothers who keep on nagging their husband/kids. Finally the relationship gets strained due to this. One has to understand how their behavior will impact another.

Blame - stop blaming and take full responsibility of our life. I see absolutely no point in blaming others. I cant stand it to hear mothers who curse their kids for silly reasons. Remember, being a parent don't give you the automatic right to drive over your child's life. If you cannot appreciate then do not strain the child - parent relationship by verbal abuse. Be careful with your words because once they are said, they can be forgiven but not forgotten ! Ultimately you lose peace of  mind by not giving up blaming others for mistakes they don't do.

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind”  Elly Roselle

Give up on limiting your goals. Once you think positively that you could do something, never look back and immediately your mind will absorb the positive energy and start working to achieve your goal. It's all in the mind set. Don't limit on what you can or cannot do.

"Change is the law of  life. And those who look only to the past or present are only to miss the future." John F. Kennedy

Give up on past. Dwelling on past can never bring us future. I myself  have been there and sometimes it hurts to think that I have actually spoilt my present due to thinking of  past. Everyone have their own regrets in life but living on the regrets are just so unhealthy. Not only we suffer stress and disturbed mind but we are spreading the negative aura around us!

Give up on trying to impress. Sometimes we just want people to recognize us and trying to impress will not really be rewarding. Take off that mask , be real and people will embrace us for what we are. After all , we don't lose being ourselves.

Finally , I've learnt giving up does make sense as an adult on certain notions in my life. I thank god sometimes I just come across wonderful souls in my life.. I am still learning !!

MARCH 2013

It's  March ?!  You kidding me.........! Ugggh....my packing is still pending............! Lotsa work and so little time :(